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Achieve Emotional Balance Through Living with Intention


Did you know that just by changing the way you think and process the world around you, you can mitigate stress, get more out of your day, and achieve emotional balance? You become whatever you think about all day long; meaning stress is heightened when you think stressful thoughts. If your mind is always focused on feeling stress, you won’t have room for more productive thought processes. If you want to achieve emotional balance, the best place to start is with honest, non-judgemental self-reflection.

  • How often do you find yourself thinking and worrying about the past or future?
  • How often are you able to truly focus on what is happening in the present moment?
  • How often do you practice stress-reducing activities like meditation, journaling, exercise, nature walks, etc.?

Our negative thoughts do more than just make us feel anxious; they can also create physical sensations and symptoms. Acute stress (more short-term, situational stress) can cause:

  • Your muscles to become tense
  • Your heart rate to become elevated and circulation to be constricted
  • Your digestion to shut down and your mouth to get dry
  • Your adrenaline and cortisol levels to surge
  • Your sleep to become disrupted

When you carry these negative thoughts and stress long term, you can experience:

  • Pain from muscle tension in the form of chronic tension headaches, tooth grinding & TMJ, restless leg syndrome, fibromyalgia and other pain syndromes
  • Heart disease and increased risk of heart attack and stroke
  • Inflammatory disorders of the gut, malabsorption, heartburn, reflux and irritable bowel
  • An increased risk of autoimmune disorders
  • Adrenal fatigue, circadian rhythm disturbance, sex hormone imbalance and even early menopause or menstrual irregularities
  • Insomnia, memory problems and structural brain changes

In order to combat the physical and emotional threats brought about by chronic stress, we must work towards inner balance. However, to achieve emotional balance, changing behaviors is not the only step. Even when you modify your behavior and schedule, you won’t find balance until you also adjust your way of thinking. You must learn how to match your thoughts and energy with what you desire in life through intentional living to achieve emotional balance.

An intention is a guiding principle for how you want to be, live, and show up in the world, whether at work, in relationships, during your meditation, or in any other area of your life. To identify your intention, you must first identify what matters most to you. Once you’ve determined your intention, you can use it to help guide your actions and thoughts as you move through each day.

When you are working to find your intention, resist the urge to phrase it as something you don’t want, such as “I don’t want to feel stressed.” This will only create more stress because your focus is on stress itself. Instead, identify new desires, such as presence, hope, patience, health, trust, courage, focus, or peace. Once you adopt your desired intention, align your thoughts and actions with it throughout the day. Make it your mental focus and respond to the outside world in ways that support your chosen intention and desire to achieve emotional balance.

Maybe you’re not sure exactly what you want. One great way to start is to think about what you definitely don’t want and then make your intention the opposite of that thing. If you still need some help getting started on your path to achieving emotional balance, here are several great intentions:

  • I intend to lead by example .
  • I intend to be peace wherever I go.
  • I intend to make meditation a more important part of my lifestyle.
  • I intend to stop taking things personally.
  • I intend to release judgements of myself and others easily.
  • I intend to be open to success and support.
  • I intend better health.

Once you’re set on your new intention, you will begin the process of realignment. This process includes the following actions:

1. Slow Down

  • Begin thinking about the safety of slowing down; understand that there is safety in slowing down.
  • Allow yourself to slow down in your energy, your thoughts, and your actions.
  • Slow down, do one thing at a time and go about your life with ease. If you don’t do this intentionally, life will eventually force you to.
  • Gabby Bernstein says, “Do less and attract more.”

2. Genuine Presence

  • Spiritual teacher Deepak Chopra asks himself a series of questions as he starts each day to bring forward a powerful energy: “Who am I? What do I want? How can I serve? What am I grateful for?”
  • By bringing a genuine presence to your day, you will notice how your inner and outer self feels moment by moment
  • The more you bring this peaceful energy forward in everything you do, you are cultivating a clearer awareness in your mind, which helps the bran from being overloaded

3. Silence is Golden

  • Avoid making sure you fill every minute of your day with distraction and business.
  • It’s only in stillness and silence that you can access the awareness needed for living in the now and achieve emotional balance
  • You can’t think your way into your intention, but you can allow it to come through in the silence.
  • The solution to stop obsessively thinking is to embrace silence.

4. Non-Judgmental Awareness

  • Jon Kabat-Zinn says, “Simply put, mindfulness is moment-to-moment non-judgemental awareness.”
  • This time is an opportunity for us all to release judgement of one another and instead practice awareness.
  • Recognize your own judgements and simply choose again. Tell yourself, “I choose (intention) instead of this.”

Consider these other tools to help you realign and achieve emotional balance in yourself:

  • Set intentions that you actually believe in – it must be authentic.
  • Manage your attitude.
  • Meditate on your intention.
  • Journal about why you’re grateful for it and how you plan to step into it.
  • Breathe into and with the intention.
  • Just for today, focus on setting intentions for short term vs long term emotional balance.

Most of all, as you work to achieve emotional balance, remember: “Your intentions create your reality.” – Wayne Dyer


Contributed by:

Alisha Leytem

Well-being Coach | Wellness Consultant | Retreat Facilitator
CEO and Founder of Alisha Leytem, LLC

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How to Be a Better Ally in the Workplace


We live in a world with a dynamic social climate, and we must be willing to evolve with it to be truly recognized as an ally or advocate. However, the words “ally” and “advocate” are more than just words that describe us as a person – they’re also action words. Ally and advocate as action words means making the effort to remain self-aware, as well as taking action to make changes and correct misperceptions of those in the greater community where we live. In other words, we must learn how to be a better ally in the workplace.

An ally is someone with privileges who notices injustices and takes action by bringing attention to the injustice and requesting that it is corrected. An ally uses his or her privilege to advocate for someone else who does not share the same privilege.

An advocate is a person who publicly supports or recommends a particular cause or policy to bring about the removal of barriers to creating opportunities for marginalized groups. An activist is someone who vigorously commits to and campaigns for change, in an effort to be a better ally.

An advocate is a person who publicly supports or recommends a particular cause or policy to bring about the removal of barriers to creating opportunities for marginalized groups. An activist is someone who vigorously commits to and campaigns for change, in an effort to be a better ally.

Although sometimes controversial, it is important to be able to identify your own privilege so that you can use this as an advantage when advocating for others. Some characteristics of people who generally enjoy privilege include:

  • White people
  • Able-bodied people
  • Heterosexuals
  • Males
  • English-speaking people

Some people misinterpret the term “privilege” and believe it implies a lack of struggles or hardship in life. In fact, social privilege simply means possessing characteristics that have not specifically created obstacles in education, employment, housing, legal matters, income, etc. A person can enjoy one or more social privileges and still have faced difficulties in life, financial hardships, employment challenges and more. Those with privilege can learn how to be a better ally in the workplace.

Some of the groups who have been historically marginalized, meaning lacking privilege, include:

  • BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, People of Color)
  • LGBTQIA (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersexual, Asexual)
  • AAPI (Asian Americans, Pacific Islanders)
  • Women
  • Members of certain religions
  • Disabled people
  • Elderly people

To aid these marginalized groups in our community, we have to understand how to be a better ally in the workplace. Allyship and advocacy are primarily needed to address:

  • Social Concerns such as the victimization of black citizens by the police or white vigilantes, crimes against Asian Americans due to inflammatory comments around the origins of COVID-19, and the absence of employment protections for LGBTQIA+ Americans in 29 of our 50 states.
  • Women and BIPOC are still very underrepresented in today’s workplace and the income disparities for female workers (especially BIPOC) have yet to be eliminated.

Popular comedian, activist, and YouTube personality Franchesca Ramsey has said we should be uplifting other voices instead of speaking over them.

Keep in mind a true ally:

  • Acknowledges issues
  • Doesn’t speak over others for whom they are advocating
  • Educates and researches
  • Does not center themselves in the narrative
  • Gets involved
  • Does not expect members of marginalized classes to educate them
  • Listens to and believes what they are told by marginalized people
  • Calls out offensive jokes or statements within their own social circle
  • Takes responsibility and works to change

Remember, your inaction or silence on important social issues only helps the oppressors, not the oppressed. Although change and conflict can be uncomfortable, it’s a necessary process to work towards an equitable society for everyone. You can be a better ally in the workplace.


Contributed by:

Kathy Vance

Property Management Content Strategist
Ellis Partners in Management Solutions, Edge2Learn

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Overcoming the 3 Major Types of Work-Related Burnout


Did you know there are 3 major types of work-related burnout? The multifamily industry certainly brings its fair share of stressors, amplified over the past year and a half. It may not surprise you to learn that people in today’s workforce are burning out at a younger age than ever before (26-27 years old versus the mid-30s). Right now, Millennials are uniquely affected by work-related burnout, but why?

Would you believe the major contributor is the added connectivity available with modern technology? This means that employees can be accessible around the clock and often feel obligated to dip into their downtime in the name of productivity.

Specifically, “burnout” refers to a state of mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands. It reduces productivity and drains energy, leaving you feeling helpless, resentful, and like you have nothing more to give. Lifestyle, personality, and work-related burnout can affect anyone at any age, and it’s important to recognize the signs if you are heading in that direction. These include:

  • Every day is a bad day
  • You’re exhausted all the time
  • Caring about work or home is a waste of energy
  • Your daily tasks are dull or overwhelming
  • You feel nothing you do is appreciated

If you can identify these red flags early, you can intervene with active stress management to avoid a total breakdown. You can also look for these behavioral signs that you may be on the road to burnout:

  • Withdrawing from responsibilities
  • Using food, drugs, or alcohol as therapy
  • Coming in late to or skipping work

Although they may seem the same, you need to be able to distinguish between stress and burnout.

STRESS:

  • Is characterized by over-engagement
  • Emotions are overreactive
  • Produces urgency and hyperactivity
  • Causes loss of energy
  • Leads to anxiety disorders
  • Primarily causes physical damage
  • May kill you prematurely

BURNOUT:

  • Is characterized by disengagement
  • Emotions are blunted
  • Produces helplessness and hopelessness
  • Causes a loss of motivation, ideals and hope
  • Leads to detachment and depression
  • Primarily causes emotional damage
  • May make life seem not worth living

Burnout is generally brought on by one of the following three causes:

  1. Work-related causes of burnout
  • Feeling like you have little or no control over your work
  • Lack of recognition or reward for good work
  • Unclear or overly demanding job expectations
  • Doing work that’s monotonous or unchallenging
  • Working in a chaotic or high-pressure environment
  1. Lifestyle causes of burnout
  • Working too much, without enough time for socializing or relaxing
  • Lack of close, supportive relationships
  • Taking on too many responsibilities, without enough help from others
  • Not getting enough sleep
  1. Personality traits
  • Perfectionistic tendencies: nothing is ever good enough
  • Pessimistic view of yourself and the world
  • The need to be in control; reluctance to delegate to others
  • High-achieving, Type A personality

What are the three biggest causes of employee work-related burnout?

Although unrealistic deadlines/results expectations and consistently working long hours rank as #2 and #3, the #1 cause of employee burnout could be totally avoidable! The #1 reason is:

Lack of support or recognition from leadership!

Our Multifamily team members have many other options for employment, so we must take the time to make sure they know they are appreciated and valued.


Here are the 3 major types of work-related burnout

So since all of us in the Multifamily industry have “work” in common, let’s discuss the 3 major types of work-related burnout. It’s important to know which type of burnout you or your team members are experiencing to focus on the best prevention methods.

  1. The Worn-Out Worker – You keep on frantically working despite feeling overwhelmed and overloaded with work, overlooking your own needs in order to fulfil your work demands. In the words of the researchers: “The frenetic burnout type works increasingly harder, to the point of exhaustion, in search of success, and presents involvement, ambition and overload.”
  2. The Frenetic Worker – You can see this type of burnout as the opposite of the first one. You feel like your work doesn’t offer you opportunities to develop your abilities: “The under-challenged type has to cope with monotonous and unstimulating conditions that fail to provide satisfaction and feels indifference, boredom and lack of personal development.”
  3. The Bored Worker – You are mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausted. When things at work don’t turn out as well as they should, you stop trying. As a result, you become passive and unmotivated.

Key Prevention Tips

For the Frenetic Worker:

  • Set boundaries
  • Learn how to say “no”so that you can say yes to those things that are meaningful to you
  • Schedule relaxation time

For the Bored Worker:

  • Learn something new
  • Find value in your work

For the Worn-Out Worker:

  • Set relaxation time (this is especially important for the worn-out worker)
  • Find a support group of like-minded people

In addition, any burned-out employee should find a mentor or trusted partner to confide in, vent to, and seek advice from. Also included with this article is a handout that will list burnout resources and detailed suggestions for burnout prevention!

Contributed by:

Pam Pederson
Director of Engagement and Communications at Edge2Learn

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Edge2Learn is an eLearning company whose focus is the Property Management Industry and specializes in property management training and multifamily education. With almost 40 years of experience and a commitment to increase industry excellence, we are passionate about engaging learners to maximize benefits for both companies and employees. Aligned with a well-respected industry leader, Ellis, Partners in Management Solutions, the Edge2Learn platform provides a turnkey solution for clearly identified needs and opportunities. We prepare learners to deliver a superior customer experience and reduce corporate liability risks and overall employee turnover.